How to transition from best friends to dating
"When we perceive mutual attraction — the key word being 'perceive' — it is tempting to pursue and make a move such as trying to kiss the person," she says.
However, she advises against the Hollywood gesture.
"In a situation like this, you have to be prepared for all possible outcomes," says Dr.
Valeria Chuba, integrative sexologist and host of the Get Sex-Smart Podcast.
"It may sound a bit cold, but with so much at stake, running a cost/benefit analysis on your potential romantic involvement with a friend before you confess your feelings can be really helpful."She continues, "If you do decide to go ahead and pursue romance with a friend, it's very important to not get too attached to a positive outcome.
You may get lucky and find out that your friend reciprocates your romantic feelings; but it's just as likely that he or she isn't interested in anything beyond friendship."Of course, it's helpful if you have an inclination whether your friend has feelings for you, too. Sue Varma, a board-certified psychiatrist and couples and sex therapist on faculty at NYU Langone (@doctorsuevarma on social media), warns that some signs are up for interpretation.
But eventually (and despite their close friendship), she realized that the key ingredient that bridges the gap between platonic and romantic affection — attraction — was missing. I wanted to be in love with him, but eventually came to terms with that the fact that I wasn't and could never be.
"It was one of the most difficult things I ever had to say to someone." For the record, it is possible to be friends with an ex.
But if you were buds to begin with, it may never be the same, or you may even lose that companionship entirely.
"We have tried to maintain a friendship and succeeded at some points," says Michelle of her former beau.
If you've been thinking about sharing your "more-than-friends" feelings with someone you care about, read on to determine whether it's worth the risk.
Before blurting out "I love you" to one of your buds, it's important to think everything through.
"But he is still in love with me and believes we will wind up back together."Now, she's dating someone new.