Excuse me but are we dating or hooking up
Delaying your responses for hours or days does not make you more attractive. New rule: “I will respond within 4 hours of getting a text from a girl.” Having a new girl respond over text feels great.
You’re actually being MORE NEEDY by faking disinterest just to get someone to like you. And sometimes, you just want to hold onto that wonderful feeling.
This then reinforces your belief that you can’t attract women. Now, I could try to convince you of all the reasons why you should stop listening to your scumbag brain. Sometimes, you just need to stop overthinking and do your job in romantic pursuit.
Because if you invite her to do something and she says no, then you might lose that sweet, sweet attention. It’s not going to move a connection forward or towards intimacy.
It makes sense in theory — you’re strangers and you want to make her feel comfortable. You want to show her how similar you are and how you both love the same things.
But what you don’t realize is that women are on online dating to meet up with potential mates. You need to weed out the girls who just want someone to listen to them and aren’t serious about meeting up.
You also have no idea whether or not she’s interested, that’s just your insecurity speaking.
These are women who were invested enough to willingly give you their number.
A lot of you come to me saying, “I don’t have any potential women in my life.” When I ask about your methods, I often learn that you HAVE opportunities, you just don’t capitalize on them! Or, you’re just plain oblivious to the “green lights” you’re getting from women.